Friendship Friday: Let me take you far away...
I'd like a holiday.

Friday, 15 June 2012

We all need a breather every now and then. Away from the humdrum of life, a break from the routine, a chance to explore, travel and learn, discovering new places and cultures. Sometimes, a vacation is what motivates us to get through the normal every day rut, which can teeter to the edge of becoming a chore simply because it's so... mundane. Same places, same people, same sequences.

"By and large, mothers and housewives are the only workers who do not have a regular time off. They are the great vacationless class."
- Anne Morrow Lindbergh

It's tough being a Mum. It always has been, since the beginning of time... but perhaps as the world moves forward, our priorities change, too. It's no longer enough to attempt to juggle a house, a husband, and a brood of kids while maintaining our sanity... for many of us, work is also added to that equation. The Asian lifestyle and culture also dictates that the extended family will always be a part of growing together as a family, and in some cases, it's not unusual to have 3 (or more) generations living under one roof. A vacation is sometimes absolutely necessary to recharge and re-energize. It's a time to just relax, put all cares aside, and create room for fresh memories.

What’s the best vacation you’ve ever had?
The best(est) vacation I've ever had was right after our wedding (which was exactly 3 years ago, come tomorrow!). We decided to head off to Bali, which was a place I have always wanted to visit again but held back because of certain traditional 'beliefs', which is whispered and hinted at, but never enforced. It all comes down to personal choice.

It's been said that unmarried couples should not visit the place together. Bali is a sacred island, and a place where decorum is practised and traditional beliefs are observed. Many traditional Indonesians hold this tru to form, for it has been said that couples who visit Bali while still on an 'unholy union' will not see their relationship blessed further. Initially I thought that it was a purely Indonesian belief, but after having met a few people who are also aware (and observe) this in Singapore, perhaps it's better to err on the side of caution. Of course, there will be those who will pooh-pooh this notion, for it seems curiously 'supernatural' to some degree - but in life there are certain things which cannot be explained just by logic alone. It doesn't help that this belief is strengthened by the fact that of all the couples whom I've known to visit Bali for a holiday prior to the vows, only 2 made it through. These 2 couples were there for their wedding photo-shoots.

Bali is also known as the 'Island of The Gods'; an island on which mythological Gods were believed to have roamed. In fact, everything about Bali takes on a hazy rose-tinged hue... one has to visit the place to really understand the depth of this 'surreal' feeling.

We spent 14 glorious days there... days of laughter, sunshine, and crystal clear waters. Walking about the island hand in hand without fatigue, exploring places and taking in the sights. When dusk falls, the island takes on a magical sheen, haunting 'gamelan' melodies permeate the frangipani-scented air, men dance on coconut embers and the women dance into a trance in the numerous temples throughout the island. There is an almost imperceptible hush, and even amid the hustle and bustle of Bali's night life, one can still sense the air of reverence attributed to the local beliefs.

We didn't have a care in the world. It wasn't that we were on a vacation per se, it was more of the tranquil surroundings and charm of the local Balinese which made it so. Padi fields stretch as far as the eye can see, and the balmy cool air transported us to a different time and place.

The sun is high, the future looked bright, and we had each other. It was simply magical.

What’s your dream vacation?
I would love to go back to Bali again, with BabyMoo now - because it is also a very family friendly place. It's also an introduction to 'another side of life' for him, away from the city.

Perhaps one day I would also like to have the opportunity to travel to Greece. A mythical place rich in history and the unknown... so that I can come closer to the stories which have been told about Gods and Goddesses.

Vacation or Staycation – share your summer plans!
No plans as yet... and the June holidays are almost over. I suppose any day spent with my favourite two boys makes me as happy as a vacation to the most exotic place. Time spent together as a family is priceless.

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  1. and don't forget that hot bod that went to the vacation! hahaha! :p I miss Bali!!

    1. Eh... the hot bod was SO 3 years ago. Childbirth does wonders to hot bods lah. Now become smouldering lump of mass already!

    2. And thanks for nominating me as 'friend of the week'!!! weeeeee!!!! Only for a week? >__< :p

    3. you are modest. you just don't wear tight fitting ones to show off now.

    4. A week to feature... give you one finger you want the whole hand!! :)

      Not modest lah. No intention of showing off muffin tops!

  2. I like to head off to Turkey with Dumpling when she's older. The colours, culture, food, architecture :)

    1. Ya!! Turkey is also on my go-to list!

      I think I will enjoy the vibrance and rich heritage there.

  3. Dear Regina,

    Thanks so much for sharing your fabulous post with us this Friendship Friday! I have always wanted to visit Bali and I really appreciated your insights into this fascinating island; your post made me want to read more about the culture and beliefs!

    Congratulations also om three years of marriage - I wish you many, many more! :-)

    I am heading over to Adeline's blog now; thank you to introducing us to your friends!

    Have a fabulous weekend and a wonderful anniversary as you:

    Create With Joy

    1. Hi Ramona,

      Thanks for hosting!

      Yes... I hope for many many more blessed wedded bliss as well :)

  4. Oh wow I never knew about that belief actually.. this is the first time I'm hearing about it. Thanks for sharing. It looked like a beautiful honeymoon and here's wishing you and your hubby many more years of marital bliss! :)

    Ai @ Sakura Haruka

    1. Hi Ai!

      I've heard about it since I was young... from my granny and aunts - but I was surprised to know that many friends here have also heard of that!

      Ah well, a belief is as such. Just a belief :)

      Thanks! I wish us many more happy years as well!

  5. Wow 14 days in Bali is a long time! As in most people vacation there for a couple of days to a week I think. You must be the take it slow, chill kind of traveller :)

    I'm more of a "chiong" traveller though I've learnt to slow down a lot after the kids came along. And it has been rewarding, travelling with the kids at their pace.

    I'm longing for couple vacations but I think the max I can last without missing the kids terribly is 3 days, 2 nights! And, I'm a firm believer of family travel so I don't think we'll leave them behind for extended period (no help to care for them anyway). I ever toyed with the idea of selling everything to do a RTW family travel for a year or so. But of course, the pragmatic hubby thought I was crazy haha

    Happy Anniversary in advance! Have an awesome celebration :)

    1. It was more or less a BaliMoon so we took the opportunity to stay longer! Plus I had to clear leave also - so along with the wedding etc, I took 3 weeks off! (A wonderful 3 weeks it was)

      We stayed at 3 different areas (Nusa Dua, Seminyak and Sanur) while we were there. Actually we didn't intend on staying more than 10 days, but one of our wedding gifts was a 4 day 3 night stay at the Haven at Seminyak... so it was perfect!

      I am also a try-to-see-and-do-everything traveller, but during this vacation, I was more laid back, cos maybe we had time.

      I'm steeling myself to go for a holiday with BabyMoo. Thinking of the logistics make me stay put for the time being. :D

  6. Can't wait to go there now...and 14 days of vacation is damn shiok. I never been on such a long vacation before, wish I can take such a long break in future :)
    You don't look much difference in your figure before & after childbirth anyway, lucky girl!

    1. Amie!!

      I'm so jeles! You're leaving soon... enjoy the trip :)

      You always so kind lah. Now excuse me while I *preen* Haha!

  7. Ooo.. I've been to Bali a few times with my husband and absolutely love the place from the food to the beach! Don't think we can ever get sick of Bali!

    Congrats on your wedding anniversary too! :)

    1. I don't think Bali allows us to! There's just something about the place...

      Thanks, Sherlyn! :)

  8. I want to go to Venice before it sinks! ... But only when I don't have to lug around a diaper bag. Don't want to sink the gondolas

    1. I'll ask again in 5 years time :)

  9. I'm too much of a Nazi traveler to enjoy a beach holiday especially when it's so long. But now that I'm older, I think I would appreciate time to just slow down and enjoy the company of hubby.
    I would say that Japan was probably one of my best holidays. It was a good mix of the city as well as the countryside. Not forgetting Tokyo Disneyland.

    1. Hi Susan,

      Yes... I think we were there at a time when we're both able to actually take a 'breather' and go with the flow. (read: old!!)

      It's nice to just sit back, relax, not do or think about anything... and just 'be'.



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