Friendship Friday: Why do you blog?

Friday, 22 June 2012

I started this blog because I realised that BabyMoo's growing up moments are so precious, yet they go by in a flash. After he turned one, milestones are met with surprising speed... and what he was struggling to attempt to do yesterday, is done with ease today.

I couldn't keep up, but I know that I needed to squeeze all these memories into a compact place where I am able to look back next time and laugh at my silly first time mum worries, and be reminded over and over again how rewarding parenting can be. I also needed a platform to store these information for the boy himself, whom I hope wouldn't mind too much that I'm sharing his antics as a (not so) wee babe, once upon a time.

I started my blogging journey as a Mum on Thursday, 23 February 2012, with this post:

I blog for myself.

Writing has always been my opiate, and it takes me away from the usual humdrum of life... and it usually puts things into perspective for me. That said, I think that there is a measure of narcissism in every blogger. Unless your blog is set to private, of course... but we all realise that nothing on cyberspace is ever private. In fact, even good old fashioned leather bound journals are prone to prying eyes - so I suppose nothing is ever really safe, not unless it's kept inside the heart.

I blog to share.

I take the time to visit other blogs because I find that I'm able to learn so much from other people's experiences. Some posts make me think, while others tug at my heart strings. Some make me laugh... and there are many which I find comfort in when I think that only my son is out to make this parenting business hard for me!

As such, I hope to reach out to the many people out there who may find what I share in my posts useful for them. Only mothers will understand what other mothers go through... and there are times when (especially as a first time parent) we feel that we are stretched to breaking point.

“If Virtue and Knowledge are diffused among the People, they will never be enslav'd.

This will be their great Security.”

Samuel Adams (1722-1803)

I blog to make new friends.

It's always nice to receive a comment, and to realise that there are people who bother to read and in some cases, enjoy my posts. It will be a bonus to have been told that they have found what I mentioned useful, and they can identify with the content.

As much as I have favourite blogs which I will look forward to visiting every time there is new content, there are some people who always take the time to visit mine, and who have made this blogging 'escapade' so meaningful for me.

These people have started off as 'virtual friends', and then there are many whom I have taken the opportunity to meet in person as well. The great thing about this is people who can identify with (and emphatise) with one another's posts are more often than not, like-minded individuals. Agreeing with and being able to understand where the writer is coming from is a sure indication of being able to agree with and understanding the person in real life as well. I find this very very true for me, because I write the truth. I don't see any point in sugar coating misery, nor would I ever use my son as a form of bragging rights, an accessory or as a trophy kid.

In short - what you read is what you see, and what you get. I do not claim to be anyone else, nor do I want to be somebody else. If you feel an affinity with me, I think we will get along just fine - you and I.

Linking up with

What is something new you’ve recently learned about blogging?

I've learnt that there are so many aspects to blogging, and there are different reasons as to why people blog. The blogging community may be world-wide, but it is a very tight-knit one, with the majority of writers respecting the fellowship.

Blogging effectively is an art form. It's almost an acquired skill, in which certain bloggers start off already knowing. For the rest of us, it's about developing our own voice, and a style which becomes synonymous with our blog.

What is a great tip that you’d like to share?

I'm very very new in the blogging world, and still have much to learn.

However, I feel that being honest helps. If we are concerned about the impact a subject may have and feel that we cannot handle the repercussions, I think everyone will be better off if the subject is never broached. This goes for comments, too. There is nothing more (sad) than someone who leaves a comment for the sake of leaving a link. 

Without the benefit of intonations and facial expressions, it is extremely important to always ensure that what we write conveys the message effectively.

Is there a site you would like to recommend about blogging?

I have never tried to Google: "Creating a successful blog" because I blog as myself. I don't need to purposely try to find out how to present a people-pleasing blog, because this blog is written with my own voice. Perhaps I have (and will continue to) hone up and 'polish' certain things, but the basic voice and feel of my blog remains the same.

Have you written an article about blogging that you’d like to link up?

This is it!! :)


Today's Featured Friend is Adora, who writes at The Gingerbread Mum.

She's a Mum of two lovely girls, and I love that she writes with all her heart and soul. She injects a very healthy dose of humour into every post, and this is one Mum who is clearly loving everything about life now!

We've met on two separate occasions, chatted through a very long walk at Dempsey Hill together (she with her 2 month old in a sling, and a spring in her step...) and I can't wait to meet her again!

To top it all off, she also has a crafts-for-kids business that focuses on creating crafts using recycled materials. And you wonder how she finds the time to juggle everything.

Do drop by and get acquainted with her!


  1. My sentiments exact about the part where people post a comment just for the sake of leaving a link behind.....! You are doing a great job blogging, Regina! Your flair for words never fail to amaze me. I've got a lot to learn from you too. :) all the way!!!

    1. We learn (and ahem... chat) from / with each other!
      Sharing is caring!

      You are one of the gems which came out of this blogging thingy! :)

    2. ok.... now which gem... diamond, ruby, sapphire.... don't tell me jade ah.

  2. Hey Regina, I always enjoy your posts. You're very personal, and there's a distinctive quality in your writing that I can't quite describe. I find I'm quite similar to you - I blog to remember milestones and up/down moments in my family, to share tips or things that are close to my heart, and to connect with like-minded mums. So glad to have met you here! =)

    1. Aww June! I'm so glad to know you via blogging as well!
      Thank you for the kind words... motivates me to write more.

      Memories are for keeps :)

  3. Awww thanks Regina! I totally agree with you, blogging for oneself is very important. Spring in my step? Haha, I never notice!

    1. Yes Yes... effortless, the perfect poster mum for why having a baby should not hinder us from every day activities! :)

  4. Everyday we are learning new things in life, same goes for blogging. New people to meet, to link up and to have some fun.

    1. Great people to meet. Like minded ones will always identify with what we write :)

  5. Couldn't agree more on leaving a comment just to leave a link! Although I can't say I've never done tried to kill two birds with a stone before, i.e. comment on something I like, and hope the person will hop over too!

    Anyways, here's a link that might interest you! (Actually I think you might like the whole blog, haha!)

    1. I read that blog!

      Thanks, E... and you know that I check your blog regardless of whether you comment or not, right? Haha!!

  6. Hi Regina, it sure is refreshing to read your blog:) I love your candid writing! Will be visiting more often :)

    1. Hi Serene!

      Thanks for stopping by :) I'll drop by yours, too!




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