There are so many different people in the world, and no two people will ever approach a situation the same way. It could be in the words they use… how they go about solving a problem, or what they opt to do.
Ultimately, our choices will always be our own.
We always think that the glass is either ‘half-empty’ or ‘half-full’… depending on our take on things. A positive outlook can really be a great thing to have if we are one of those people who tend to see the bright side of things all the time, but usually - the higher the hopes, the bigger the disappointment(s) may be.
Whilst it’s true that we cannot always think that there is a chance for disappointments to materialise in any aspect, we can never rule out the possibility that they often do. Nothing in life has a surefire guarantee that it will work out the way we want it to… nothing is ever 100% foolproof. There is always that 0.01% chance that it may not turn out as expected.
And we all know that expectations can cause us to do things that may not conform with the way we are.
I always choose to look at things more on the negative side, rather than the positive side. That doesn’t mean that I will always look at the dark side of a situation… rather, it’s more like I would rather be prepared if things doesn’t quite make the mark for me.
I lower my expectations (or do not allow myself to have any expectations) unwittingly sometimes - even when I’m doing spontaneous things. If it works out for the best, I would consider it as a bonus. If it doesn’t, then at least I am emotionally prepared for it, because I did not have the expectations that would make me hurt and disappointed should things go the opposite of what I’ve hoped for.
I always prepare myself to expect something to happen. Averse or otherwise.
You may ask - how could preparing for something negative be nothing more than fueling the already there negativity? It seems like along with it, I would be doing the ultimate wrong in this harsh world we live in. As it is, the world does not dish out happiness by the dozen, why make myself worse off by choosing to explore the negative sides of things instead of having high hopes?
Simple, really. It makes me more emotionally prepared should it deviate from a hoped-for situation. I would simply smile cynically and think to myself: "That was expected, really…" and not feel really bad should things don’t go according to my plans.
I don’t expect too much out of people and things, just because I have seen and borne the brunt of hurt and pain when the walls come crashing down on me. Nothing surprises me anymore… and things that could go wrong - usually do.
Then again, I don't mope around and pick on things just to see the negative aspects of it. I do believe that if one keeps on expecting bad things to happen, they may happen simply for that reason alone. Being defensive because we are too afraid to take chances can often cause negativity in our lives - because chances are what we should take in order to live and learn. Only through experience are we able to actually realize the paths our lives should take. That’s when we have truly lived.
I just think that it’s better to be pleasantly surprised than be unexpectedly disappointed.
I don’t need to prepare for a positive thing;
Positive things never hurt.