First I ditched the skyscraper heels in favour of flip flops. Then the skirts and fancy tops were replaced by comfortable tees, which served a dual purpose - they go with the denim shorts which have become my weekend staple, and they hide the post baby bulges which I'm far too lazy to work on.
I still, however, know that regardless of the compromises I have made in terms of comfort and habits when the kid came along, I must never, ever forget myself. I have the luxury of adult company and 'me time' since I'm a working Mum, and fortunately, work has also made it necessary for me to not forget about personal grooming.
There are days, however, when I feel overwhelmed with juggling work and family. There are times when the boy (and hubba!) test my patience, and there are moments when I suddenly have enthralling visions of just sitting down, coffee or tea in hand, armed with a good book... without perpetual screams and 'Ask Mummy(s)!' ringing in my ears. Therefore I think it's important for all Mums to take some time to care for themselves - and just 'find' themselves, all over again.
Here's sharing a list of my 7 (hopeful) pleasures to a more positive Me!
1. Love My Family, Love Myself.
A Spa Session - the whole works! Hair, Manicure, Pedicure, Massage and Therapy. A monthly ritual would be nice, and leave me recharged to face the next 30 days.
2. Ask for Help.
When I need some time absolutely to myself or with the hubba, I have learnt not to be afraid in asking for help. As it is, this is very few and far in between since the boy is taken care of by my in-laws on weekdays.
3. Laughter makes good company
I always make sure that I surround myself with positive vibes. It's infectious, and doesn't allow me to dwell on negativities. Mothers contend with so much stimulation during the day that life becomes overwhelming.
4. An efficient helper
She should ideally, take over my obsession for cleanliness, organization and order, so that I can afford to spend time playing with the kid, cooking and baking without the prospect of cleaning up looming like a sinister spectre.
5. Bali with the Babes
I have these 2 friends who keep me sane. They are crazy cool, and they are the kind of friends who can sit together with you, not say a word - and have you walk away like it's the best conversation you've ever had.
A trip to Bali, just 3 of us - will be wonderful. The stuff feel-good movies are made of.
6. Eat without gaining a pound
Have I mentioned that I love good food? And that I don't get why 'good food' to me always translates to calorific goodness? I would love to be able to eat whatever I want, whenever, without worrying about adding on to that extra 10lbs which I have yet to lose post-partum. (This is also er... a hopeful list)
7. Be Myself.
I must always remember to never compare. Much of stress and irritation comes about by the inner fear and belief that there are other mothers who are better than we are, and that we're never good enough. I think BabyMoo will do well to know me for myself, and appreciate me for who I am without any prompting from my part.
I think when I'm in the right frame of mind and I don't put too much onus on myself to be a better person, wife and mum... I can then play up my strengths as a parent. Sometimes I just need some time to myself, for myself, and to appreciate myself.
Only then can I be a thoroughly happy Mum.
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