'Virtual' vs 'Actual' Friendship. Is there a difference?

Friday, 21 December 2012

In this technologically advanced age, a lot of our time is spent on the internet, be it for research, work, or entertainment. As in real life, numerous communities have formed, attracting like minded people into their folds, people who are drawn together by a common goal, and at the same time, seek advice for problems faced or simply just to communicate.

Bonds are formed among members of on-line groups, and friendships can be forged by people who have never met one another in person.

Can we really form plausible friendships on-line? Why is it that in many instances, we can feel so close, or have a connection with people whom we have never met?

Perhaps the anonymity that the world wide web offers is a strong influence. Opinions are more strongly expressed, and it is all too easy to share experiences without having to deal with 'instant reactions' which we have to face, should the same discussion be had, face to face. We can complain about the things in life which affect us in a community, without fearing any backlash from those who know us. It is a solace ground of sorts, where we rant and rave, and be comforted in the fact that many others may face the same problem, or are worse off than we are.

Best of all, if you begin to feel awkward, threatened, or feel that you do not share the community's views - you are free to leave these virtual groups, as easily as you joined them.

I am fortunate to be a part of the Singapore Mom Bloggers (SMB) group, where I have had the opportunity to get to know a fabulous group of like-minded moms. We have shared problems and worries, and celebrated milestones and victories together. We are as diverse as a community gets, but we are united by a common goal: We only want the best for our children. 

We share trying times, and be comforted by those who have gone through the same. We laud little moments which make motherhood worthwhile, and be enveloped in genuine warmth from others because they know exactly how it feels like.

While some may say that virtual friendships are as fleeting as a click of a button, and can be terminated simply by the X at the top right hand corner of the screen, I am glad to have had the opportunity to take these virtual friendships onto a real life presence. We look forward to these meetings, simply because it's always nice to place intonations to the words on-screen.

We take time off mothering, work and life, to take a breather and be ourselves, for ourselves. I'm glad that I am able to stop referring to these ladies as my 'on-line friends'.

They are now, simply, just 'my friends'.

An awesome part of Singapore Mom Bloggers:
Clockwise from left: Jean (Jeanstitch), Sandra (SANses), Amie (Mamanie's Thots), Jennifer (DinoMama), Pc (simply us)
ME!! and Adeline (The Accidental Mom Blogger), with Megan, her lovely daughter.
Female versions of Larry, Curly and Moe. Make a wild guess which one of us is which!


17 comments :

  1. OMG! My bunny teeth so eye catching! *faintz*

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    1. Eh... you never say I never notice. Now I cant stop looking at IT!!! Hahhahhahha!!

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  2. hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha nice. :p

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    1. Why you larf so loud har? HA?!

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    2. dinch larf loud leh. It would have been in caps otherwise.

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  3. aiyo so cute la!!! and so sweet to give a tight hug!!

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  4. Hi Regina,
    I would say there is no difference in virtual and actual friendship, as long as the hearts are TRUE. Sometimes, there are friends that we see everyday, but their hearts are not 100% true. People talk bad about others, backstab, gossips etc - especially at work. Sigh :(

    I've seen super buddies in my office (the kind that will go back together, go wash cup in the pantry together), and suddenly became enemies and don't talk to each other anymore.

    Sometimes, friendship is scary too. But I really appreciate the bunch of lovely friends that we made in SMB.

    Enjoy our friendship, and enjoy blogging... :)

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    1. Hi Em!

      That's so true... good friends are very few and far in between! I love that my friends accept me for who I am, and love me because I'm me!

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  5. Haha I'm thankful for the friendships we've developed at SMB too and am glad for our monthly meetups so that we don't have to say "oh I know her from her blog but have not met her" Haha.

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    1. EH!!! I know you from your nursing room reviews and I'm so happy to meet you in person, too! Hehehe...

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  6. So lovely the picture of you gals together.. I'm also thankful for the friendships from SMB and meeting up with you and the rest of the ladies off an on this year. To more meetups next year :)

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    1. Cheers, Dom! Looking forward to it, too!

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  7. Great to see you again~! Sorry I gatecrashed and didn't ask if you will be there. Otherwise, will prep you (and babyMoo) some cupcakes too;).

    Happy to be in the community and get wild once in a while. Merry Christmas, hot mama!

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  8. Hmmm! I was going to say why never invite me. Then I saw the pizza and I realized ah must be one of e workshops ya? Better be. Or else I angry!!

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    1. Ya la, Adora... it's the pizza making class excuse for the mommas to meet up! :D Don't anger lah... soon we meet!

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