Common Sense? Non-sense!

Tuesday, 16 April 2013

I don't know if it has anything to do with age, but I find myself more accepting somehow - now, more than I ever was before.

I suppose a lot of things in life are learned the hard way, sometimes there are events and situations that we do not seem to see or are able to decipher and understand until we personally go through it. Perhaps in a lot of instances, many of us have been more 'mature' than our counterparts ever since we can remember, but I've come to a point when I realise that a lot of things and solutions are so much easier said than done. It is really simple to see things from a clear perspective and see the most feasible (if not only) solution for the situation... if we weren't the ones going through it.

There have been instances when my advice is sought, and I'm not too proud to admit that at times, I can't help thinking how silly the whole scenario is... or how could it even make sense that the evident way out eludes that particular person. However, I cannot say that I will not be as confused or as irrational as the person concerned if I were in their shoes.

Maybe that's part of the reason why I'm a tad more tolerant now than I ever was before, I always try to give the benefit of the doubt to a whole lot more people, and I tend to treat things that used to irritate me in a great way lightly. I actually learned to laugh at silliness and the total lack of common sense now, instead of getting myself all wired up, irritated, and angered by the sheer stupidity of the person or situation.

I may even be cynical, as some would tend to see it, but that's not an entirely bad thing. How can something that actually makes me a happier and more light hearted person - be that bad?

I find myself more sedate now, it's as though I'm tired of fighting a losing battle with the world. When I was younger, I tend to lose my temper over things that doesn't make sense to me. Things that irritate me simply because I think that it shouldn't have happened in the first place. I get angry with people who don't really know the art of being humble, people who think the whole world of themselves, people who refuse to see reason because they always think that they're right, and people who refuse to learn by observing others - thus limiting their perspectives.

In a nutshell, I had very little patience for things that simply scream of 'stupidity' to me. Not because I think they are stupid, but because things that transpire does not make sense to me. I used to have this way of thinking that goes: "If I can see it, I don't see a reason why you can't."

...and then I realised that what may make sense to me, may not be seen the same way by others. Not by a long shot.

Now I've mellowed out somehow. Or I'd like to think that I have. What would previously get me in a tizzy just makes me walk away shaking my head with a smile, and what used to anger me beyond all reason would just be taken with a pinch of salt. I'm more tolerant and accepting of other people's faults, and even rudeness doesn't get to me as much as it used to.

When I stopped bothering about all these minor little imperfections in life, when I stopped caring so much about how things could've gone if they were done differently... I find myself a happier person.

I don't want to have to keep on changing channels to find a programme that would suit my taste and I would enjoy watching. If I have to, I will watch whatever it is that's showing, and find certain aspects that would make me enjoy it more.

I have only one life. I realized that I cannot always expect things to go the way I expect them to. If I did any longer than I have already wasted my time as it is, I would stop making sense, even to myself.

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  1. It's crazy because on one hand, I can control my temper much better now that I have kids (it's highly ironic because they do a great job at driving me up.the.wall), but on the other hand, when I explode, it can be a bigger explosion anything compared to the ones I had in my youth!

    1. Yes me too especially the part about "when I explode, it can be a bigger explosion anything compared to the ones I had in my youth!"

      Hear Hear.

    2. I would like to think that these 'explosions' now are triggered by things which matter, and not by inane stuff which we irritate us as was the case 'back in the heydays'!

      I agree that motherhood mellows us down somewhat. :)

  2. Well-said/typed, Regina!

    I tend to give people the benefit of doubt as well because I never know what's transpiring in their personal lives that renders them unable to see logic, so to speak.

    However I am not forgiving when it involves me children and family. This is a fault of mine. I am a tiger mummy and wife, within reason and when one behaves unreasonably towards my pride, I let it be known.

    1. Anyone comes near my kid / family... will bear the brunt of my wrath. Period. I'm biased when it comes to them. ;)

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  3. I tend to side step certain things when it comes to be tolerant of the kids. However I too will not stand taking any nonsense from people who I do not need to tolerate I guess that growing up makes one more selective of what is acceptable by us.

  4. just like you, i will go after anyone who tries to be 'funny' with my husband and children. i don't take these things lightly, especially when it comes to my husband children.

    my temper is pretty much still the same as before though. hahaha! might just be a bit worse due to the lack of sleep. but i'm using much less vulgarities now! i try my best to auto-censor. lol.

  5. Motherhood mellows me down too. Sometimes, all I have in mind is just family.



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