"You know how adults are so fond of asking kids what they would like to be when they grow up?
An astronaut, a doctor, a vet, a fireman, or a policeman. In a child-like world, you can be anyone or anything that your little heart desire.
I only ever wanted to be a bride."
Talk about lack of ambition.
As I progressed on in life, however, I realise that in reality, not all brides and princesses are fortunate enough to live happily to the ever afters. The pressures of life, finances, differences in opinions, children and lack of tolerance are some of the reasons why marriage vows are sometimes broken.
Sometimes it's necessary to stop, and take a moment to think back upon what was it that made us decide to be together in the first place. I think it's such a privilege to grow old with someone. In this fast paced world where it's all too easy to be swayed by distractions and temptations, we can easily lose sight of the fact that a union between two people who love each other is truly a Gift.
It's perfectly normal to argue, to complain, and to have differences. We may not realise that the very traits in our partners that we complain about are what actually drew us to them in the first place. As human beings go, we have the innate need to nurture those whom we care about; but these little quirks and idiosyncrasies are what makes our partners who they are - the very person whom we fell in love with.
We love each other one minute and drive each other crazy the next. There are wonderful times, and there are those which would best be forgotten, but these moments are what makes memories. Memories make up the rich tapestry of life.
My wedding day was an unforgettable highlight in my memory chest.
Early morning, 160609
Me: Aren't you just a little bit afraid? So you are going to absolutely give him your all? What if he ends up making the world a more cruel place for you? How do you know that you're making a wise choice?
Inner Voice: How do you define a 'wise choice'... and how does one know whether another is good, or bad? Personalities and people don't change over time. We simply learn to adapt and grow together. We live, we tolerate, we stay focused on learning more about each other everyday. You never stop learning about a person when you still care. When there's 'nothing much' more to learn, it's not that you've come to that point when you know that person well enough. Perhaps you've just come to an impasse... perhaps you've allowed yourself to let life take over love.
I'll take that chance.
Join me and 23 lovely ladies as we take a breather from the mothering madness and walk down memory lane. The Wedding Day may have since long passed, but there are certain snippets from that day which we will remember fondly, and will always remember forever.
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"The man who held my hand to cross the road every single time right up till I got married"
When we got off the yacht, we couldn't hear the music. BOND's Lullabye. I remember him giving his nod of approval when we told him we'd chosen this song. He had it playing in his car months after our wedding.
We didn't know whether we had to start walking or wait for a cue. We were half panicking and half laughing and saying "Can you hear it? I can't! How! Got music or not?". Turned out that our timing was brilliant. And that walk down the aisle? On my father's arm? The man who held my hand to cross the road every single time right up till I got married (and I got married at 27)? It was perfect."
"His loving look has not changed even after all these years."
Throughout the wedding, I loved looking into my hubby's eyes to see the tremendous warmth and love he feels for me.
"I promise to love you forever!"
I cried on our big day because he said those simple words which touched my heart!
"17 June 1999 - a day we will always remember."
It was our Wedding. David and I, both being the eldest, have saved up to hold our Holy Matrimony Ceremony followed by a Banquet at The Hilton. He serenaded me on the flute as I walked down the aisle with my Mom...basking in the love and exuberant cheers from our close friends, family and loved ones. We will always look back at this day with fondness and a heart of gratitude...for it is God who provided us the resources to make this wedding celebration possible and it is He who made life beautiful by granting us each other.
"With your presence and love, my world couldn't have been more complete."
The most memorable bit of the wedding has got to be my own bespoke wedding heels. The husband designed it from scratch based on my preference and likings and custom made it for me, because he is a 'shoe-maker' (shoe designer).
“We love because He first loved us."
This picture touched me cos my husband was overwhelmed with emotions while worshipping the One that brought us together. We have come a long way to get here. Married after dating for 6 years.
"I was surprised that it matter to me not how grand the wedding was but how real the celebrating was."
During the wedding, my hubby and I were celebrating the fact that we still wanted to get married to each other, despite the many trials we went through together from the birth and care of our daughter, Joy, to resolving in-law conflicts and many issues.
I always dreamt of having all or most of my wedding wants satisfied, like a Princess. But I guess having a family before the wedding changes your entire perspective.
We choose to hold the customary wedding on Joy's birthday and shared some of what we went through together in a video I made. We felt a connection with the guests through the many conversations that we had with them, separately or together and they did not say the usual congratulatory words to us. We truly celebrated that night and it was all that matters.
"I remember hubby showing up in ching chong goofy chinese costumes..."
"New Life, New Beginning."
"I loved that Gold Dress. I can outrun you for the bus in that thing!"
"I was the first in my family and generation and amongst my friends to get married."
So I thought it would be fun to have the toss of the bridal bouquet! It was only caught on the third throw. It was pretty smashed by the time my friend caught it. Haha!"
"Walking down the aisle of life as man and wife."
"People say they feel wedding jitters on their wedding day. All I felt was peace."
"And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony."
"From a princess, to a queen, was also the day I left my family, friends and a place I called a home since born, with many wonderful blessings and hugs. Indeed, we live happily ever after".
"How often does one get to dance, in coat tails and beautiful gowns in a room lit with chandeliers?"
My candle is on the left. The candle we lit is in the middle. My husband's candle is on the right. He said it was ominous that his was burnt almost all the way down to the wick while my stood tall!
A sign of things to come?
"The most memorable part of the wedding was that the man sang "Grow old with you" and that was the first and last time he ever sang to me."
"Singing our way into happily ever after on our wedding day. Fairy tales do exist, as long as your believe with your heart."
"With you, my life is filled with more smiles, more laughter and more joy. My promise to you is to do likewise as we choose to love every day."
"Daddy's girl for one last time. Daddy's girl for always."
Last but not least, there was the PRINCE, who also literally became a 'Queen'!
"If you want to make a memory truly memorable, make it so as many people will remember it as possible. So now that you've seen my photo, I bet you won't be able to forget it even if you wanted to, can you?"
A marriage is a union of heart, body and soul. There may be times when the going gets tough, and there are days when your other half can really try your patience. Long after the last piece of confetti has blown away in the wind, and the initial euphoria of the wedding day magic has subsided, the journey ahead is long.
People always wonder what is it that make marriages last, and if there's a secret to it. I think it's just a matter of acceptance. Of loving someone despite his or her failings. Of seeing beyond the perfections to appreciate the imperfections. Of two incomplete parts, coming together to make one perfect whole.
Grab your tiara, link up, and share your wedding day memories with us!