a) We don't advocate a regimented lifestyle for the bub.
Ever since BabyMoo was born, we've always gone with the flow on things... we never attempted to put him on a strict routine of bath, bed and feeds. We started him off on 60ml of milk every two hours, which became 80ml every 3 hours from the 2nd week onwards, and then 120ml every 4 hourly. His body clock adjusted on demand, and we learnt to distinguish his cries of discomfort or hunger.
When he turned 4 months, we started him on solids on the PDs advice, and reduced the milk intake accordingly. At 6 months, he was eating breakfast, lunch and dinner (porridge with pumpkin, carrots, fruits) with milk feeds in between - but we fed him on demand.
BabyMoo doesn't have fixed nap times or a bed time either. But whenever he's sleepy, we recognise the signs and help him sleep. At bed time, we create a (sort of) routine for him we call the 3M - Music, massage, milk. But we never instil a fixed time for bed. He plays with us or Granny until he's sleepy, and surprisingly, he will without fail turn to Mummy, lay his head on my shoulder, grab my arms, and perk up at the mention of milk. This happens at around 9.30pm - 10.00pm, and he's usually fast asleep by 10.30pm. When he was able to point things out (apart from jabbing Mummy's eyes, nose and ears) he would ask for milk, his massage lotion after his feed and then point to the TV.
|Because TV is not bad enough.|
We don't insist and try to make him sleep at a precise hour daily, or create a timetable that he has to follow religiously. We figured that he has the rest of his life to be exposed to a more or less regimented lifestyle, unless we decide to migrate elsewhere.
We are happy, and so is he.
|I have such bad parents they think that me falling asleep sitting up is amusing.|
b) We feed BabyMoo anything and everything!
(apart from alcohol and spirits on their own.)
Ever since he's able to sit and eat at the table with us (7 months onwards) we aren't averse to feeding him what we eat. He would usually point to Mummy's / Daddy's plate / drink, and we give him a taste of it, within reason, of course.
He's had his share of all kinds of cuisine, from Bread Boules to Duck Rice to Paella... and he's taken well to everything except chicken breast. He has an odd aversion to chicken breast and lean meats in any form, and when I initially tried mixing chicken in his usual pork porridge and carrots previously, he spat it out and swatted away the bowl. Now he's not too bad with chicken, since he discovered the wonderful taste of soya sauce chicken - but will still be able to differentiate between the breast and the upper thigh meat.
Chawan mushi only from Sushi Tei, and nowhere else (we tried!). Eggs were fed to him at 8 months in the form of Omega 3 Egg Tofu because Mummy was clueless and only found out that eggs are only supposed to be fed to baby after they turn one!
But as long as he likes the food, he can have it day in, day out, every day, without any complaints.
Chocolate cakes, ice cream, mousse and puddings. He's able to point out exactly which ice-cream flavour and cake selection off the counter now, and relishes each bite. He sometimes refuses to share his food, and we're constantly reminding him that he HAS to share, and that's another hurdle we have to overcome.
|A night cap with Daddy just before bed.|
c) We don't hog Baby Changing rooms.
It takes us under a minute to change his diaper now (apart from the times when we are slowed down by the toxic fumes of more 'ornate' diaper changes in the usually ill-equipped changing rooms).
We don't use a changing mat to line the public changer. Now that the bub prefers to be changed standing up, Pull-Ups are a god-send. We've noticed parents who line the changer with a mat or wipe it using almost half of the contents of the wet wipes (80s), use lotion, use powder, etc. I must really admire their diligence in ensuring that their child is not too exposed to germs! :)
Apart from the fact that we have a squirmer and flipper who refuses to lie still during a diaper change, we're so inadequately care-less(?) comparatively. Thank goodness BabyMoo doesn't suffer from diaper rash badly as long as we *remember* to change his diaper every 4 hours - which DaddyMoo proudly proclaims is gotten from his 'cow-hide' attribute.
d) We don't over-sterilise.
While we still observe a measure of hygiene when it comes to BabyMoo (we use baby-friendly washing liquids, detergents, softeners, and DaddyMoo has a little container of washing liquid to wash Baby's utensils in the diaper bag at all times)...
We hardly make it a point to:
- wipe down the high chair every time we're presented with one at restaurants unless it's so obviously dirty, in which case we would rather he sits at a regular chair.
- we let him go on kiddy rides without wiping down the steering wheel and seat
- we sometimes forget to wash his hands before meals (then in lieu of carrying up a seated, comfortable kid looking forward to his meal - I will proceed to wipe his hands with hand and mouth wipes the best I can)
- we feed him pretzel, cake, and food morsels on the go after wiping our hands on a wet wipe.
- we never mopped our floors with Dettol. BabyMoo is actually smart enough to never attempt to put non-food items in his mouth.
|Bringing me to the playground at dusk is their idea of a joke. Serves *them* right if they get eaten alive by mozzies!|
|My Mehmee feeds me all sorts of junk just to see if I'm like a regular kid who loves them. Too bad I'm always all out to spite her. She gets so disappointed when I only get off on holding the supposed bad stuff instead of gobbling them!|
BabyMoo asks for a certain food. It was given to him. He doesn't like it much... spits it out, and never asks for it again. Not even when he's hungry and that's what Daddy and Mummy are having. He recognises things at first glance, and he remembers what they are called. I think it's amazing that he's able to do this... but I'm his mother and I'm allowed to be biased :)
We're also hoping that BabyMoo would have built up his immunity from having 'dirty' parents. We draw the line at certain things, though... when we come to it.
We definitely aren't the model parents that we should be, but we love our son to bits and pieces and more. We try to give him what we can, the best way we know how, and all our faults aside, we would only wish for the best for our son.
As all parents do.
"We worry about what a child will become tomorrow,
yet sometimes we forget that he is someone today."
|Has my Mehmee stopped warbling yet?! Wake me up when the babbling ends.|
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