Love and Acceptance

Friday, 14 February 2014

I suppose I have come to the realization that throughout my life, as long as I don't close my heart to learning more from my experiences, I will never stop asking questions. I will never be able to tell myself truthfully that I am truly content with what I have, at least not when it comes to the mental state of things. 

That said, I have come to a point in my life that I tend to always seek the better of everything. To look beyond the little nitty gritties which can often frustrate me, and learn to appreciate even the smallest things which make me happy. I have learnt to accept (not to be confused with 'settle') and tuned myself to the fact that I should always always look beyond the imperfections of someone or something, and learn to see the good and work my way to being happy around it.

Every person is different, and so are their attitudes and their approach to life. What makes one person excel in something may also be their bane. When we are close to someone, undoubtedly we tend to open up more and show more of ourselves than if we were to be mere acquaintances. The true measure of love is not about what we are able to give each other in material terms, but it's when we are able to accept the person despite all their shortcomings, and still love them for who they are. So many people make the mistake of trying to mould or change their partners to what or who they want them to be, and suffice to say, when a person is compelled to change as opposed to wanting to change - there will come a point in time when the effort of being a 'changed' person will take its toll on them, and on the relationship.

When a relationship doesn't work out, it's usually because people change, and our expectations change regardless of what we do or how we may try to subdue it. When we are able to change accordingly and keep pace with each other, the relationship will take on a life of its own. It will run by itself, and apart from positive developments and the realization that we have to keep the fire burning through some effort on our part, it should never be that we have to go above and beyond what we are capable of and what we're comfortable with.

In a successful relationship, two people will grow, change and evolve along with each other probably because they want to try to accommodate, accept and respect each other's likes and dislikes. Sometimes when a person shows that he/she cares enough to do that, it speaks louder than the sweetest promises whispered, the most romantic gestures done and a thousand "I Love You(s)" said.

When we learn to accept another person and focus on what is it about them that makes us happy instead of what we would like them to do and how we'd like them to be -
we free our heart by relieving it of impossible burdens.

... oh - Happy Valentine's Day :)

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